Alternative dispute resolution methods such as mediation are becoming more and more useful in resolving the issues of divorce.  You and your spouse can agree to seek out private mediation before commencing legal action.  The Supreme Court of New Jersey has list of approved mediators which includes lawyers and CPA’s.

Private mediation can be used to narrow your issues or completely resolve and settle your divorce. The mediator would then prepare a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) for you and your spouse to have reviewed by your respective attorneys.   Keep in mind that if you use an attorney/mediator he or she is not acting as an attorney for either of you but is a neutral party in your discussions.

There are also mediation programs for custody, parenting-time and economic issues offered by the Court once your divorce has been filed.